A letter for you, lonely and recluse.

Dear Friend,

It can be difficult to feel like you don't fit in or that you don't have the energy or desire to be around others. However, I want you to know that you are not alone in being alone, and it’s really alright if you rather avoid any/all of that socializing.

But loneliness can also be a breeding ground for dark thoughts and I want you to know that if it seems that no one else is concerned about you, I DO. I care about whether you’re doing alright over there. It can be hard to take steps back into society, but there are some small ways to overcome these feelings.

Firstly, start with a simple mindset change that social interaction is a crucial part of human life. It provides a sense of belonging and helps to combat feelings of loneliness and isolation.

One way to start addressing your feelings of social reclusiveness is to take small steps towards social interaction. This could mean reaching out to a friend or family member and asking some questions over a phone call or finding an excuse to meet up. Alternatively, it could also mean showing up to a social event or gathering, even for a short amount of time. Remember, it’s okay to take things at your own pace and to prioritize your own comfort. Take your time.

It might also be helpful to view loneliness as a symptom of underlying mental health issues such as anxiety or depression. This allows you to handle it as a separate entity. Seeking help from a mental health professional can be an effective way to address these issues and work towards improving your social interactions.

Lastly, I want to remind you that you (YOU.) are worthy of love and belonging, regardless of how much or how little you choose to socialize. Once again, it’s okay to be alone and it’s okay to take time to yourself. It doesn't define your worth or value as a person. Remember to practice self-compassion and to prioritize your own well-being above societal expectations.

I hope this letter reaches you with some comfort and encouragement. Remember, taking small steps towards social interaction and seeking professional help if needed are effective ways to combat feelings of social reclusiveness. You are not alone, and there is support available to you.

Sincerely,

Hansel Wong